Dumped!

Breaking up is hard to do and this question haunts people post-relationship/fling/or whatever, but why?

Is it really humanity's tragic flaw to assume a person ended a relationship because of something you did?

I'm the exception because I'm perfect and nothing is ever my fault, even if I directly cause something to happen. 
(I'm joking!!! If I'm perfect I can't cause anything bad to happen, ever).

To answer my own question, no it's not a tragic flaw.

The Dumpee asks these rhetorical questions because s/he feels responsible for a break-up, especially since this was a kick to the knees, courtesy of the Dumper. To put it simply, the Dumper has had time to get used to the idea of not having the Dumpee around, and has possibly found a pinch hitter or replacement. Either way, you're not getting news; you're getting (and being made) history. When the Dumpee is finally clued in, the instinctual reaction is to assume it's out of the blue. But alas, it is a decision the Dumper made at least a week (maybe even weeks) ago, but only recently has become comfortable with.

I thought I had satisfied my curiosity, until I realized this was just the beginning... the Dumpee wonders why the Dumper chose this new person for a number of reasons:

• You're the Dumpee
  
• You haven't gotten "comfortable" with not being a couple, unlike the Dumper who had a head start long before you did.
• The new person is in "your" place.
• You haven't gotten over the Dumper (yea it sucks, but such is life).

Alright I get that, but then I ask myself, "Self, are there any other underlying reasons the Dumpee wonders why the Dumper chose the new person"?

Nothing...

...until EUREKA!

CLOSURE

(duh!)

Don't get me wrong, the question will still appear. However, my theory holds that it might not linger as long if the parting is amicable or if there is some closure (or you both walk away content with hating each other).

**Note: This does not take into account relationships where you break up, but don't really "break-up" because those are just complicated since emotions are still present.**

Anyhow, closure is of the UTMOST importance (and it is the duty of the Dumper to ensure it is given to the Dumpee, it's the least you can do after stomping on his/her world with your biker boots). Nothing is worse than the feeling of unfinished business. It's like dispute resolution and therapy for a dissolved partnership, all wrapped into one hellbent session.